This is the fourth article in a series of articles on creating a life plan. In the first article we answered the question, what is a life plan? In the second article, we answered the question, why do you want a life plan? In the third article we answered the question, when, where, and how do you create your life plan? In this article you will determine who matters most to you in life. In future articles you will complete your life plan, and learn what to do with your life plan once we have created it. Subscribe to our blog so that you don’t miss a single issue of this series.
I will introduce the steps that we are using to create our life plan one at a time. These steps are a combination of ideas from Stephen Covey, Daniel Harkavy, and Michael Hyatt. I was first exposed to this process over 10 years ago by Ministry Coaching International, which was founded by Daniel Harkavy. This process has worked for me, and I am sure that it will work for you too. I have tried to simplify things by breaking the process down into a series of small steps.
Today, we will begin by determining our current roles. Each one of us has different roles in our life, and some of us even experience several different roles in a single day. What are these roles? They can be husband/wife, father/mother, friend, businessperson, volunteer, employee - you get the idea. Only you can decide what your roles are.
Because so much of our happiness depends on our success in our various roles, we need to make sure that we develop a complete list. Consider your family, work, recreation, social relationships, finances, and any other area of your life that is important to you. Sit down and really think about the roles you take on each day. Write down as many as you can. Don’t hold back.
Also, if there is a role that you don’t currently have, but want to have some day - write it down too. Let’s say you’re single, but you want to be in a relationship in the future–write it down. This is one of the most important steps in the process, so don’t rush through it! Are you ready get started? Ok, let’s get to work.
Here’s my list to help get you started:
- My Wife Susan
- My Daughter Sarah
- My Career
- My Extended Family
- My Colleagues
- My Friends
- My Self
You might be looking at your list of roles and thinking, I have a lot of roles to prioritize! Being involved in a lot of people’s lives is a good thing, but too much of a good thing can lead to burn out. Some of these roles might be causing you unneeded stress, or not providing you with any fulfillment. They may be taking time away from the roles that are truly important to you. If so, you might consider removing yourself from these roles, to allow you more time for positive roles. This might be hard for you to do, but you don’t want the good to become the enemy of the best.
Your homework for today is to complete your list. Once you have developed your list, prioritize it by numbering each role from most important (#1) to least important (#10 or whatever you come up with).
Tomorrow, we will take the next step in the process of turning your list into your life plan.
Comment below on your thoughts and feelings as you develop and prioritize your list of roles for your life plan.
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